How to Ask Relatives if You Can Stay With Them

Moving in with relatives can take some serious consideration. Adjustments must be made for all parties involved, and there is no doubt that facing a whole new living situation can bring about many challenges and family tension. There are many appropriate ways to ask relatives if you can stay with them. Know that being clear, honest and considerate about your present situation can prevent any unrealistic expectations about moving in with family.


Step 1

Be clear about your reason for moving in. If you are moving in with relatives because you've lost your home or job, articulate this problem to them. Talk to them about any possible financial or other contributions you can make to their home.

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Step 2

Be honest about the living arrangements and how long you plan on living with them. Adjustments and changes will have to be made for both parties, so it is important to discuss the details of the living arrangements. Be honest about your situation and talk to them about the plans you are making to move out.

Step 3

Ask your relatives if you can stay with them by having a conversation with them in person—not over the phone or by email or text. This shows them that you are concerned about the living arrangements and that you take their feelings about you moving in seriously.


Step 4

Respect their wishes and rules. Go over any concerns about living arrangements before you move in.


Step 5

If you are an older relative who needs special medical assistance, be honest about your needs and ask your family if they would be able to make these necessary accommodations. Understand that living with relatives may take some adjustments for all parties involved. Always consider their feelings and respect their needs.



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